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Many men who harass women say their intent is to compliment them, but why do they usually not “compliment” women who are accompanied by other men and often only do it when a woman is alone? Why do they tend to object to other men “complimenting” their female significant other (if applicable), female friends, or female family members? Why do some men grow hostile and violent when women do not thank them and act flattered? Why do they feel compelled to compliment women at all? Rarely are they expecting a date. Many times they do not even wait to see a woman’s reaction as they fly by in their car or as they turn to start harassing the next woman. They are doing it to exert their power, to entertain their friends, to relieve boredom, or do demonstrate that they can evaluate a complete stranger to her face, just because she is a woman.
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asexualadvice

Anonymous asked:

ace people can't identify as queer IF they're heteroromantic or aromantic and cis... Queer is a slur born out of hatred towards people who weren't straight or cis, and those are the only people who get to reclaim it. I would be super glad if you could change your FAQ to include this. Not all ace people are queer!

asexualadvice answered:

Not gonna happen. 

Queer as it’s been reclaimed is for anyone who is not cisgender, heterosexual, or heteroromantic. All asexuals are not heterosexual. Therefore, all asexuals can identify as queer if they so choose. 

What you’re doing is identity policing and erasing the oppression that even heteroromantic and aromantic aces face. You’re saying “because you appear to be cishet, your oppression isn’t enough to count.” You’re telling people “your experiences don’t count“ and that’s garbage, anon. What you’re doing is a different flavor of the same erasure asexuals face from cishets. 

Just because an asexual appears to be cishet to the uninformed observer doesn’t mean they are, or that they’re treated that way. Asexuals can have a really hard time interacting with cishet folks because we don’t understand their feelings and motivations, and they don’t understand ours - but we are expected to figure it out and pretend to behave like them, while they get away with belittling and bullying us. We’re discriminated against at a higher rate than other non-heterosexual orientations - and this is regardless of romantic orientation. Yes, homoromantic, biromantic, panromantic, and different grayromantic orientations have it “worse” in that we get homophobia on top of acephobia, but this is not about who has it worse. It’s about the fact that we all have it. 

When you say that only some asexuals can reclaim queer, you’re ignoring the fact that all of us face erasure, discrimination, invalidation, abuse, assault, and other mistreatment at the hands of cishets - and sometimes at the hands of our fellow queer people. You’re making attraction to the same gender, in some capacity, or not identifying with the gender assigned at birth the requirements for being queer, and you’re isolating people who don’t fit those requirements, but still aren’t cishet and still don’t fit in there. You are taking a safe space and a community of sympathetic and empathetic people away from folks, leaving them out in the cold. 

Don’t be that asshole, anon. Don’t abandon people because they don’t fit your narrow view of what queer should be. Recognize that the world is run by and for cishet folks, and all asexuals are, by definition, not cishet. We don’t belong there; we belong here. Asexuals are queer, regardless of their romantic orientation. 

-Kiowa

Adding onto this because I agree with Kiowa 100%. I also think it’s important to note that this Anon specifically states that it’s a slur for people who “aren’t straight or cis.” You know who’s not straight? Heteroromantic Aces.

Yes, heteroromantic and cisgender aces get to “pass” as straight, whether they like it or not. You know who also gets that? Pan, bi, and poly people in relationships with people of a different gender, especially cis ones. Does that make them any less queer if they have a partner of a different gender? No. It’s the same for ace people.

We will not tolerate this hate and invalidation on this blog. I 100% support all aces. Every. Last. One. This is a safe space for them.

-Kieren

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thatdiabolicalfeminist

Being poor is just a series of emergencies.

Emergencies really do crop up more often for poor people. Necessities, like vacuum cleaners or phones or bedding or shoes, need replacement or repair more often when you only buy the cheapest possible option.

Poor people’s health tends to be compromised by cheap, unhealthy food; stress; being around lots of similarly-poor contagious sick people who can’t afford to stay home or get treatment; inadequate healthcare; and often, hazardous and/or demanding work conditions – including longer hours allowing less time for sleep, home food prep, and mental or physical exercise.

Our homes may not offer much respite, as we’re less likely to have comfortable furniture for sleep or relaxation, more likely to be forced to rely on abusive people for financial reasons.  We’re also more likely to live in high-pollution areas, food deserts, and in poorly-maintained rental housing. We’re less likely to have access to heat or cooling even in dangerous weather.

For all these reasons and more, we get sick more, and when we do, we have less access to medical care – even the poor people lucky enough to have adequate insurance and a doctor who will provide appropriate care without discrimination may face significant difficulties getting to and from a doctor and pharmacy.

Poor people have less reliable transportation; any cars that are affordable for a poor person will usually need major repairs at least a couple times a year - more emergencies! - and poor people are less likely to live anywhere near an adequate public transit system. Just the cab fare to and from a doctor visit can easily cost a week’s worth of groceries or more. Ignoring medical needs as long as possible and not accessing preventative care causes massive future expense.

Many people are poor specifically because of disability, making work difficult or impossible in addition to the expenses of managing chronic illness, accessing mobility aids, or other costs associated with disability.

Poverty runs in families, and friend groups are often based heavily on class in our stratified society, so in addition to your own emergencies as a poor person, you’ll likely also be sharing resources to keep your loved ones alive. You’re not likely to have wealthier friends or family who can or will help.

Poor people are less likely to have enough clothing that we can wait to replace unwearable items. Because our clothing collections are smaller (and often secondhand and/or poorly made), our clothes wear out faster. Not having clothing that marks us as ‘respectable’ can bar us from employment, make us more vulnerable to violence from police or other harassers, and make resources like social programmes less accessible.

Overdraft fees target poor people specifically. Being a few pennies off in your maths can mean sudden huge bills that compound themselves. Predatory banks routinely run all charges before processing the deposits you make earlier in the day or week, which can mean huge overdraft fees can happen even if you deposit your money hours or days before trying to spend any of it.

There are thousands of examples. For poor people, unexpected expenses happen more often. And when you’re poor, any unexpected expense can be an emergency with serious consequences.

Even the cheapest (most temporary) solution for an emergency often breaks the bank.  People who aren’t poor don’t realize that an urgent expense of thirty dollars can mean not eating for a week. Poor people who try to save find our savings slipping away as emergency after emergency happens. Some poor people turn to predatory lending companies, not because they don’t know it’s a bad deal but because being hugely in debt tomorrow is better than your kids starving today.

I don’t think people who’ve never been poor realise what it’s like. It’s not that we’re terrible at budgeting, it’s that even the most perfect budget breaks under the weight of the basic maths: we do not have enough resources.

Cos we’re fucking poor.

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trainzelda

When we say that the United States is joining Syria and Nicaragua by not participating in the Paris agreement, I think it’s not fair to leave it at that, because neither of them refused to sign for reasons anything like the selfish ones of the United States.

Syria was under sanctions making it complicated to even attend, and on top of that were embroiled in intense civil warfare and not in a great position to make a commitment like that. They didn't​ disagree with it, but were never involved with the deal in the first place.

Nicaragua actually felt that the Paris agreement was not strict enough, arguing that they didn’t want to be complicit in a voluntary effort that didn’t properly allocate the responsibility to large countries for being the ones who poisoned the environment in the first place, nor impose a punishment on anyone failing to comply with the standards. Nicaragua is one of the countries that’s most affected by climate change but least responsible, and they felt that wasn’t fairly reflected in the accord.

The United States is the ONLY country that has rejected the Paris accord because of the belief that our environment is less important than our profit. Even oppressive regimes and the poorest nations in the world are smarter than that, or at least know when to keep their mouths shut and play along. The USA is not really in the league of Syria or Nicaragua, but alone in the refusal to cooperate out of pure greed.

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